Comments on: Mom: The Official Buzz Kill…. http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/ Thoughts and gripes on motherhood and life Thu, 16 Dec 2010 13:54:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: kate j http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-42 kate j Sat, 14 Feb 2009 20:59:01 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-42 this is the perfect explanation of how I feel whenever my husband gets here! For teh past three months he has been working in another state, and i have been home alone with 3 kids under 3. We all miss him and look forward so much to his visits, but when he gets here I almost wish he hadn't come because he interrupts my perfectly scheduled routine. Which of course makes me feel terrible and guilty and like a mean parent and horrible wife, and just adds to my stress. I spend so much time looking forward to his visits and getting some help with the kids, but then I can't bear to lose my control - and I was so laid back before kids and marriage! Oh well, just another aspect of my character I need to work on I guess - thanks for putting my thoughts into such eloquent words - good luck enjoying your private time next Sunday! this is the perfect explanation of how I feel whenever my husband gets here! For teh past three months he has been working in another state, and i have been home alone with 3 kids under 3. We all miss him and look forward so much to his visits, but when he gets here I almost wish he hadn’t come because he interrupts my perfectly scheduled routine. Which of course makes me feel terrible and guilty and like a mean parent and horrible wife, and just adds to my stress. I spend so much time looking forward to his visits and getting some help with the kids, but then I can’t bear to lose my control – and I was so laid back before kids and marriage! Oh well, just another aspect of my character I need to work on I guess – thanks for putting my thoughts into such eloquent words – good luck enjoying your private time next Sunday!

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-40 Stephanie Mon, 09 Feb 2009 19:49:48 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-40 She is so right! Do you know how many times I have spent the week, Cleaning, cooking, wiping various body parts, bathing kids and dogs, paying bills, making cupcakes, volunteering for the hundredth thing this month, only to have my husband come home from a business trip to be the king?! I used to hate it but recently use this time to sneak away for me time. Let him be the king in craziness, I'll be the queen in quiet!! Love Musing mom and look so forward to her articles!! She is so right! Do you know how many times I have spent the week, Cleaning, cooking, wiping various body parts, bathing kids and dogs, paying bills, making cupcakes, volunteering for the hundredth thing this month, only to have my husband come home from a business trip to be the king?! I used to hate it but recently use this time to sneak away for me time. Let him be the king in craziness, I’ll be the queen in quiet!! Love Musing mom and look so forward to her articles!!

]]> By: Nicole http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-38 Nicole Sun, 08 Feb 2009 19:22:07 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-38 Thanks for this! It's nice to know that other moms are feeling the same way- the need to "keep the routine" going even when you know you should let things go and just relax... It's the mantra I have to keep repeating to myself - "the dishes, the dust, the laundry, the dog hair- will ALL be there tomorrow, and the next day, and the next..." Like you said- I think we just need to remind ourselves that Moms can be free spirits too and just let the small stuff go... :) Thanks for this! It’s nice to know that other moms are feeling the same way- the need to “keep the routine” going even when you know you should let things go and just relax… It’s the mantra I have to keep repeating to myself – “the dishes, the dust, the laundry, the dog hair- will ALL be there tomorrow, and the next day, and the next…” Like you said- I think we just need to remind ourselves that Moms can be free spirits too and just let the small stuff go… :)

]]> By: Tonya http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Tonya Sun, 08 Feb 2009 04:20:03 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-37 I related so much to this post! How can a few hours turn the house upside down? I walk around every Sunday...picking up after the storm has settled...feeling guilty for being mad. I sighed when you walked into that kitchen because I know that feeling all too well. Thanks for writing this and shedding new light on what is really going on... I am vowing to enjoy tomorrow! I related so much to this post! How can a few hours turn the house upside down? I walk around every Sunday…picking up after the storm has settled…feeling guilty for being mad. I sighed when you walked into that kitchen because I know that feeling all too well. Thanks for writing this and shedding new light on what is really going on… I am vowing to enjoy tomorrow!

]]> By: DM http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-36 DM Fri, 06 Feb 2009 22:33:42 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-36 I love how you just expressed what I feel so many days! Mommy is everyone's savior 24-7, but sometimes Daddy needs to feel important too...Even at mom's expense :) Keep them coming! I love how you just expressed what I feel so many days! Mommy is everyone’s savior 24-7, but sometimes Daddy needs to feel important too…Even at mom’s expense :) Keep them coming!

]]> By: Dorian http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Dorian Fri, 06 Feb 2009 20:32:57 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-35 So much truth to what you wrote! Feels good to know I'm not the only one who feels that way! So much truth to what you wrote! Feels good to know I’m not the only one who feels that way!

]]> By: Terra http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Terra Fri, 06 Feb 2009 17:25:54 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-34 I think this speaks to so many mom's. You write wonderfully and it feels good to know that I'm not alone. I think this speaks to so many mom’s. You write wonderfully and it feels good to know that I’m not alone.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Jennifer Fri, 06 Feb 2009 14:17:14 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-33 DITTO!!!!! OMG, it's the same sitch over here, and I'm a full time working mom. Regardless, somehow daddy is ALWAYS the cool one. HOW did that happen?? I used the be the fun spontaneous one in our relationship, and now I'm known as the kill joy - reminding everyone it's bedtime when they are watching movies, or that they shouldn't have a second bag of skittles that close to bedtime. Sigh. Thanks again for a great article! DITTO!!!!! OMG, it’s the same sitch over here, and I’m a full time working mom. Regardless, somehow daddy is ALWAYS the cool one. HOW did that happen?? I used the be the fun spontaneous one in our relationship, and now I’m known as the kill joy – reminding everyone it’s bedtime when they are watching movies, or that they shouldn’t have a second bag of skittles that close to bedtime.

Sigh.

Thanks again for a great article!

]]> By: frenchy http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-32 frenchy Fri, 06 Feb 2009 01:40:27 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-32 I hear you! Even for working Mom's it's the same battle. Saturday is like a gift, everyone is happy, Sunday you just feel "left out". Then back to the routines of the week and you're the one they want once again. My husband thinks that chocolate on waffles is a good breakfast, so he's cool, and I'm not LOL until we make cookies together. I hear you! Even for working Mom’s it’s the same battle. Saturday is like a gift, everyone is happy, Sunday you just feel “left out”. Then back to the routines of the week and you’re the one they want once again. My husband thinks that chocolate on waffles is a good breakfast, so he’s cool, and I’m not LOL until we make cookies together.

]]> By: ekgno1 http://www.any-mom.com/2009/02/mom-the-official-buzz-kill/comment-page-1/#comment-30 ekgno1 Thu, 05 Feb 2009 22:01:01 +0000 http://www.any-mom.com/?p=282#comment-30 doesn't the guilt kill you? you spend the whole week waiting for the family time and after just a little while- you NEED the normalcy back! doesn’t the guilt kill you? you spend the whole week waiting for the family time and after just a little while- you NEED the normalcy back!

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